Men--the Great Fixer?

Chaplain Rod Davis

For a man to learn that you can't fix everything is a landmark revelation for us guys. I believe that this is possibly the most difficult lesson for us to learn. You see, we men are fixers. It's even in our job description. I'm not sure, but I think I remember it being mixed in somewhere within the wedding vows. “I promise to love, honor, cherish and…ah… fix things around the house.”

When something breaks around the house we men see fixing it as something of a quest. We've got to fix it. Our reputation is at stake! We feel deeply insulted when the wife utters those hated words, “Dear, don't you think you should call the plumber?” Despite the ineptitude that many of us suffer from in the handyman department, we charge ahead anyway declaring, “Plumber! We-don't-need-no-stinking-plumbers!!! I can fix it myself. I'm not giving some plumber my life savings just to fix a lousy leak!”

After all… WE'RE THE MAN, my golly! It's what we do. In fact, it's expected of us. Everyone in the home expects men to fix things when they're broken or to assemble things if need be. To make matters worse, WE expect it of ourselves as well. Then when we try and can't fix it, it hits us right where we live. We then take our “failure” a bit too personal. “I failed the mission! I couldn't fix it! I couldn't cut the mustard.”

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Men--the Great Fixer (part 2)

Fixing people is God's territory!

It's a fact that men are fixers. If something around the house quits working, we're bound and determined to fix it or at least make it worse . But in a very real sense, women try to fix things as well. However, where men primarily try to fix things , women are prone to try and fix people . The problem is this; fixing people is God's territory. Often matters worse when we butt-in and try to fix others, such as our spouse, our children, and even our friends. Not all men are good handymen, but still the inherent NEED to fix things is deeply woven within our fabric. As I discussed in part one, this springs from the deep need that men have to be respected.

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33NIV)

Now, notice the wording here. God made women in such a way that giving and receiving love is on the top of their personal needs list. But men were made to be respected by those around them. That's why God commanded women to respect their husbands.

Yes, it's true that everyone, male or female, needs respect and love: it's just that respect tops the list of men's needs. In fact, a man can live without money, love, shelter, fame, or anything that men deem desirable, including sex. BUT… a man cannot live without respect! Threat your husband with respect and he will do almost anything for you. He'll climb the highest mountain, swim the deepest sea, steal honey from a swarming beehive, rob an angry bear of her cubs, get in a boxing ring with Mike Tyson, or even go shopping with you. He'll take on ANY challenge for a women who treat him with the utmost respect. A man can function and remain moderately happy without many of the creature comforts of life, but he will shrivel up and die without respect.

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