|Are You Stuck and
Need a Miracle?!
|May I offer Three
Words of Freedom?
Do you need a miracle in you life?
Do you need one in your home? Is a
relationship with someone you love
slowly degenerating and facing
eventual destruction and only a
miracle from God can turn things
around? Well, Im going to tell you
how to get a miracle.
Surely you desire truth in the inner
part. (Psalm 51:6)
David understood the importance of
honesty in relationships. He knew
that the lines of communication
could be severely hampered if he let
an offence remain unsettled. The
same holds true for us. Every
interpersonal relationship you have
(including the one you have with
God) demands honesty. We've got
to come clean with one another. We
must, if you'll excuse the expression,
cut the bull!
Therefore each of you must put off
falsehood and speak truthfully to
his neighbor, for we are all
members of one body. (Ephesians
If you tie a tourniquet on one of your
limbs and leave it there indefinitely
something terrible will happen. That
part of your body will no longer
receive anything from the rest of
your body. It will soon begin to
whither and die. If you allow
unresolved issues to cut you off
from a family member or friend your
relationship with them will begin to
whither and die.
Do you have a relationship that is
withering and dieing? Maybe you
feel like it's already dead. Have you
been hurt and angered by a loved
one or perhaps a loved one is hurt
or angry with you? Perhaps you see
no resolution to this painful
situation. You need a miracle, right?
Well, I've got one for you.
I have three words for you that
will bring about amazing
miracles in you life and bring
healing to your interpersonal
We all blow it from time to time and
even hurt someone we love. We've
even searched for ways to make up
for it. However, the three words I'm
going to give you will help you do
more to set things right than the
most expensive gifts or most
meaningful cards you can offer.
No, it's not the words "I love you" or
"I am sorry" It's not even the words
"Please forgive me." These
expressions of remorse and
affection may be good but nothing
will break down walls and usher
in healing like these three little
words. "I WAS WRONG."
If we confess our sins, he (God) is
faithful and just and will forgive us
our sins and purify us from all
unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)
It's that simple. If we confess our
sins God will forgive our sins. In
other words, call a spade a spade.
Admit you were wrong. Dont make
excuses. Just "fess up." Rather than
trying to explain yourself, rather
than trying to excuse your behavior,
just say these three words. Don't try
to justify your actions or even your...
reactions. Just say, "I was wrong."
Do that first. Then you can add
other words like, "Please forgive
me." But first you must admit your
own wrongdoing in the matter.
"But I tell you who hear me: Love
your enemies, do good to those
who hate you, bless those who
curse you, pray for those who
mistreat you. If someone strikes
you on one cheek, turn to him the
other also. If someone takes your
cloak, do not stop him from taking
your tunic. Give to everyone who
asks you, and if anyone takes what
belongs to you, do not demand it
back. Do to others as you would
have them do to you." -Jesus (Luke
Make sure that nobody pays back
wrong for wrong, but always try to
be kind to each other and to
everyone else. (1 Thessalonians
It doesn't matter to God who started the
squabble. He doesn't care who said what
or did what to whom. Each of us is
accountable to Almighty God for our
own actions and our own reactions;
that's right-- your reactions. "Don't return
wrong for wrong. Bless those who curse
you, pray for those who mistreat you." I am
not accountable for what others do to
me. However, I am accountable for how
I react to them.
Bear with each other and forgive whatever
grievances you may have against one
another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun
go down while you are still angry.
In the eyes of God I am personally
accountable for everything I do--
everything! I can't expect to go before
God with excuses for disobeying Him, "You
just dont know what that person did to me,
Lord! I was so hurt. How can I ever forgive
them for what they did. Or how can I trust
them ever again!"
If that's your attitude God wants to ask you
a question. "How about you? How did you
REACT to what they did? Did you get
angry and say hurtful things back to them?"
You may respond, "Well yes, but I was so
hurt! They made me angry. What they did
To which God replies, "Yes and I will hold
them accountable for what they did. It was
wrong and they need to apologize to you
and repent before me as well. However,
(and this is the part we dont want to hear!)
What about you? It takes two to tango, you
know. The way that you reacted to the
offence is equally wrong. Right??"
Well... I suppose it is"
"Did I not say, 'Make sure that nobody pays
back wrong for wrong?' Did I not say
'forgive whatever grievances you may have
against one another. Forgive as the Lord
"Well... yes, but... "
"There's no buts about it. Are you reacting
in a Christ-like way to insults?"
"Well, no Lord. I am not."
"Then, in that case, say it."
"OK, I will. I was wrong; wrong to react in
anger and bitterness to them and more
importantly, I was wrong to disobey your
"Good! Now, what are you going to do?"
"Go to the one who offended me and tell
him I was wrong to snap back at him and to
act so un-Christlike."
Now, you've got it!
"He was oppressed and afflicted, yet he
did not open his mouth; he was led like a
lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep
before her shearers is silent, so he did not
open his mouth." (Isaiah 53:7)
"I have set you an example that you should
do as I have done for you."-Jesus (John
Your attitude should be the same as
that of Christ Jesus. (Philippians 2:5)
"I was wrong." What a powerful phrase!
What a liberating thing to admit!" I was
wrong. It doesn't matter what you did to me,
I was wrong to react the way I did! I've
asked God to forgive me and now I'm
asking you to forgive me." Wow! That will
set you free AND hopefully set the
offending party free as well.
"Therefore, if you are offering your gift at
the altar and there remember that your
brother has something against you, leave
your gift there in front of the altar. First go
and be reconciled to your brother; then
come and offer your gift."- Jesus (Matthew
It's the formula for the healing of all
relationships, those with God and with
others as well. "I was wrong."; Try it
sometime. You'll be amazed at what these
three little words will do.